Yes. They are hard and they suck most of the time. Can’t deny that. But this kind of relationship has many perks too! You just need to remember them more often. It’s always good to look at the bright side of any situation. And if you are blessed to be in one. You will understand these 11 benefits of long distance relationships. Don’t forget: in the long term, they totally worth it.
1. You travel to new places
Since you don’t live in the same place. You have the opportunity to explore new cities and everything that is around where your significant other lives. You can go on adventures and explore together new places. Before meeting my boyfriend, every time I went to the US was to travel the typical tourist places. With him, I got to know other parts, like South Carolina (where he lives) and also North Carolina.
2. You develop emotional intimacy better than other couples
Being in a long distance relationship involves a lot of talking. By phone, texting or video chatting. And while is normal to talk about what we did during our day, or how funny was the video I tagged him on Facebook. We spend a lot of time talking about our feelings. Specially at night. Since we can show our feeling in a physical way. We need to make it through words. It’s really to know if a person is sad, happy, lying, etc.
But when you are just looking at your phone… you have to guess. That’s why this emotional intimacy is crucial for us. We need to know what the other is feeling. To fix problem. Or simply to show your love for the other person.
3. You appreciate more the moments you spend together
You can’t see your partner whenever you want or make random plans at the end of the day to do something fun. To be together implies a lot of logistics and organization. So when you two are finally together, it is an amazing time! Every simple things you do together means way more. Waking up together? It means the word. You tried for the first time his favorite ice cream? A total big deal!
I have a Spotify playlist with all the songs that makes me remember special moments with my boyfriend. Or the songs that were playing in a certain time when we were together. It makes the memory last longer.
4. You learn how to communicate better
One of the things I hate the most of long distance relationships is fighting over text. Even more when it’s about stupid things. You send words, and the other person takes it bad. Or you say a joke and the other person didn’t know it was one. Things can get messy over text. We have to rely on emojis all the time, to not make simple words into something bad.
With time, we got used to the ways we talk with each other over text. You learn better to know if your partner is serious or not. Or if the person is trying to explain something and can’t find the right words.
5. You won’t worry about if the person is committed or not
Before starting a long-distance relationship you need to be 100% committed to that one person. You have to make it work and that takes a lot of energy and love. So once you agree on that. The rest comes easy. And you know the other person is trying hard too.
6. You always have something to look forward
You said goodbye? Don’t worry! The next time is getting closer too. You can make new plans and make a list of things to want to try or do together nest time. This is one of my favorite benefits! When my boyfriend bought his tickets to come to Chile I had every day planned with cute dates and places I wanted to show him.
7. You learn how to be more patient
This is hard. But you learn how to deal with it. And it is something good at the end. The good part is that working on your patience is not only beneficial for your relationship. But it’s also good for you daily life.
8. Every time you see each other it feels like a vacation
Specially if you are the one who’s is traveling. You do fun things all the time and you can wake up late. Without worrying much about the responsibilities you have.
9. You learn how to trust
Okay. This is a must in every relationship. But if you don’t trust you significant other, then whats the point of being in a long distance relationship if you can’t handle that. So once you are past the doubts the rest gets way easier.
At first it’s hard. You might trust him. But, oh! You saw a girl you don’t know in one of his pictures. Then the problem start. If know he only has eyes for you. Then it’s all good.
10. If you can go through with it. You can survive any problem
Every couple has their problems. But long-distance relationships make them even harder! So yeah, once the distance is over. You know you can survive anything. You learned how to communicate, you learned how to trust and you already know you are committed.
11. Makes the heart grow fonder. And this study agrees too
The study says that:
Couples who live apart have more meaningful interactions than those who see each other daily. Men and women in long distance relationships were more likely to share meaningful thoughts and feelings than those who were not.
Long distance relationships are not doomed to fail.
And it’s all true!!