Today’s blog post is written by Hannah-Beth of Oh Hey Hannah. She wrote great tips that can help you to keep your friends close when they live far away. It might be a difficult task, but is totally possible! Keeping friendships is important. It can be a real struggle when your friends go to different directions, but time and distance shouldn’t be an obstacle.
To keep your friends close when they live far away is a skill, meaning some of us (like me) are really terrible at it. It becomes so much harder to keep in touch when they move away for school or a new job. A bunch of my friends are older than me, so they moved away after graduating college. Even though I get to see them less we’re still close. Below are 5 tips for keeping your long distance friends close.
1. Send them snail mail
I know it can get expensive, and it’s a pain to get their actual address and take things to the UPS store and all that jazz. But sending handwritten letters a packages is a great way to let your friends know you still care about them. A random gift with a simple note says that they are still in your thoughts and care about them.
2. Snap, facetime, and text them constantly
We’re in this amazing time of technology where we can get a hold of people instantly. Being apart of people’s everyday life keeps you in their immediate circle. Just chatting about y’alls day or plans is enough, if it’s been awhile since you’ve chatted send a quick How-have-you-been text and get a convo going.
3. Make plans to visit
It can be expensive to travel all the time to see your friends. Try meeting in a wine town, or at a bed and breakfast halfway between y’all to save money. Or take turns hosting each other for a girl’s weekend. Having an annual plan for someone’s birthday is a great way to have something to look forward to and a way to keep your friends closer.
4. Be the one to reach out
Everyone is busy, so don’t blame your friends for dropping off the face of the earth when they move away. Be the initializer and don’t feel weird about always being the one to reach out or a suggest plans. Also, don’t expect your friends to call you or send letters back, understand that everyone (even your old BFFs) are human, and it’s easy to forget to respond to a text.
5. Understand that relationships change
Hate to say it, but some friendships aren’t forever. Talking your your friends less makes changes y’alls relationship. That doesn’t mean the times you shared are any less important or fun. Seeing your friends less makes you cherish the time you do get to see them. Sometimes it’s unrealistic to visit once a year or send letters every month, but there can still be an understanding between you two that you care about each other.
Do you have friends that don’t live in the same city/town as you? How do you keep your friends close when they live far away? Let me know in the comments!