Dealing with distance in a relationship can be hard at first. Then, it gets a little easier. Especially after you learn how to deal with it. But there’s a point where everything goes downhill again. When the distance is too much and you don’t know what to do to make yourself feel better. To see past those bad thoughts that make you feel more hopeless.
It doesn’t happen to me a lot. Since I’m very positive and I prefer to see the good side, rather than the bad parts of a situation. But with so many changes in my life, is getting harder to focus on the good parts. My boyfriend lives in the US while I’m in Chile, trying to follow the steps to be a good adult. And I’m not having good luck with that. Not knowing when will be next time I will see him, while time passes (too fast for my liking), is starting to get on my nerves. So trying to figure out what to do when the distance is too much, is something I’ve been learning for a while.
What to do when the distance is too much
First, and the most important thing, don’t lose hope. Whatever your situation is. It’s going to pass and it’s going to be okay. When you know that person is worth it. It doesn’t matter how hard it can get. You will get through it. And I know we want answers as soon as possible. But the reality is, they probably won’t come fast. So, you need to remind yourself why are you doing a long-distance relationship.The longer you wait for something. The more you appreciate it when you get it. Click To Tweet
Remember the good moments and don’t get impatient when the distance is too much. You won’t get anything good from that. When I’m in that situation, I need to calm myself and remind me that the day I’ll get to see my boyfriend will come. And is key that you both support each other in that. If you two start feeling like you won’t see each other again. Then the problem gets bigger than it should be. And we definitely don’t want that.
There are moments when my boyfriend feels really sad and hopeless. And it’s me the one who needs to be strong and make him see that it will get better. Time will pass, but there’s no way distance is big enough to separate us. Or sometimes is me who needs to hear those words. That it doesn’t matter how long it takes to be together again. The point is we will get there and all the distress will be forgotten. So, support each other, is essential when the distance is too muchNo matter how painful distance can be, not having you in my life would be worse. Click To Tweet
Read some quotes! I can’t recommend this enough. Reading love quotes always make me feel better. They push me to feel less sad and more positive. And there are so many! Just take a look at Pinterest, you will have millions on there. I always have my favorite ones close to me. They inspire me and recharge me for at least the end of the day. The feeling of missing someone won’t go away easily, especially if you still don’t know when will be the next time you will see your significant other. But be strong!
When the distance is too much, is also good to focus on other things. Keep your mind busy with activities. Doing your favorite hobby, or with daily tasks in your life. Just don’t give yourself time to think or to worry over things you can’t solve at the moment. It’s good to try to find solutions but do it when you aren’t feeling overwhelmed with sad feelings.
Cry. Some people hate showing their feelings or just crying for that matter. That it makes you look weak. But, hey! Who told you you have to be strong all the time? Some scientists say that when you cry, your body gets rid of toxins and waste products. They even say that stifling emotional tears can cause health problems. My point is… free those tears! It won’t solve the main problem, but it definitely helps to feel better when the distance is too much.
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What do you do when the distance is too much? It doesn’t necessarily have to be your significant other. It can be a friend, family or your dog. Let me know in the comments!