Hello everyone! It feels like I haven’t written a long distance relationship post in forever, even though the last one was a month ago. At the moment I’m in Myrtle Beach, SC. Do you know what that means? I’m finally with my boyfriend! After three months we can see each other again. That’s why I thought it was a great idea to post about the lessons you will learn in your long distance relationship.
You know, before starting a long distance relationship I didn’t know much about the dynamics of those kinds of relationships until I was in one myself. The only thing I knew was the obvious: both people have to live in different cities. Meaning that they couldn’t see each other a lot.
When I started my international long distance relationship I didn’t take into account all the possibilities. I didn’t read about all the ups and downs, and even more important, I didn’t take time to think about the future and all the implications a long distance relationship has, like traveling. Also, there is the fact that at some point one of us will have to move so we can finally be together for more than a few days.
My relationship has taught me many things in these three years. Things that I wouldn’t have learned without my boyfriend. Things that I wouldn’t have learned if I hadn’t taken the chance to love someone in a different country. That’s why it’s important to remind yourself that it’s okay to take the opportunity.
Don’t think too much about the what ifs and all the reasons why long distance relationship don’t work; because let’s be honest, there are many! But I refuse to write about them. What’s the point? To be sadder? No thank you! I’m here to remind you all the good reasons why it’s worth it!
Lessons You Will Learn In Your Long Distance Relationship
1. Time Is Invaluable
Every time I see my boyfriend we try to not to spend our time together doing stupid things. Like fighting. Yes, arguments happen all the time; and apparently, we can’t avoid them. What we can do is move on as fast as we can. Why spend the night upset when you can both be cuddling? Leave your pride behind! It’s not the moment to grunt.
Enjoy all you can and be present! Because, most likely, you won’t see your significant other in a long time. Make the memories you will need once you are alone.
2. Distance Is Important For Relationships
Just read about the Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Are A Good Idea or the Benefits Of Long Distance Relationships. You will see that, even though long-distance relationships suck, they are important to make the relationship stronger.
How you may ask? They build trust! When both of you are apart, you trust her or him with your heart. If you pass the test, you know your relationship is strong and almost nothing can break it.
I have never been a patient girl. I hate waiting for things or people. It’s honestly one of the hardest things I had to face while in a long distance relationship, but here I am… learning how to be more patient and practicing on how to be better almost every day.
For example, sometimes you won’t know the next time you will see your boyfriend or girlfriend. That will make you sad and a little desperate. The unknown will haunt you pretty much every day. Then, when you finally have a date, you will have to wait. Again. That waiting is a little better though, at least you know you will see each other soon.
The point is, you learn how to be patient. You will practice daily, and the good thing is that it will help you in other aspects of your life too.
4. There’s No Such Thing As Impossible
It all seems too hard or too complicated, but most of the time those problems are just excuses. I know how hard and how difficult it can be to close the distance or just be in a long distance relationship for that matter. All those bumps in the road will teach you how to be more perseverant and not to give up.
There’s always a solution. It might take longer, but there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Just trust in God, the universe, and in your relationship.
5. Destiny Is A Real Thing
I mean… of all the men in my city; I fell in love with someone that lives in another country, speaks a different language, and has a distinct culture from mine. That’s why I like so much this Paulo Coelho’s quote:
“So, I love you becase the entire universe conspired to help me find you”
I met my boyfriend while studying abroad in the US. From all the universities I applied, I ended up in the same one as he. The crazy thing is that I didn’t exactly choose it. My advisor recommended it. Every decision I made led me to him and that is just crazy. It goes beyond a simple coincidence. Do you agree with me?
Now tell me, what are some of the lessons you have learned from your relationship? Let me know in the comments!