I can’t believe how fast time flies. It has been a little over a week since I said goodbye to my boyfriend at the airport; and since he left, that heavy feeling is still with me. It feels like someone is squeezing my heart, and it’s so hard to get over that. Over the years, I have learned how to cope with separation in long distance relationships. I try to control myself so I won’t cry like a baby in the middle of the airport. I have done that in the past and I just hate the looks people give me.
Also, getting back to my routine has been hard. I wasn’t feeling motivated, and trying to do things was hard. In a way, it still is. Slowly, I’m crossing out a few things on my to-do list. The important thing is to not feel the pressure. It’s okay to feel sad, and even though is hard to slow down in this crazy busy world, sometimes it’s something you have to do. For yourself and your sake.It's okay to feel sad, and even though is hard to slow down in this crazy busy world, sometimes it's something you have to do. Click To Tweet
Separation In Long Distance Relationships
Every couple has to say goodbye at the airport at some point. For many, that goodbye lasts a few days. For others, that goodbye can last months. Like in my case. Traveling abroad can be a real struggle, and even if you don’t have to fly to another country… plane tickets are so expensive that the visits can’t be every week.
But when those visits happen, it feels like everything is complete again. Am I right? At least that’s how I feel every time I get to see my boyfriend. We spend wonderful days together. We go on dates, adventures, and we watch as many movies or shows as we can.
Then… those days fly by, because obviously when you have fun those visits pass in the blink of an eye. *Sight*. So we get ready for the goodbye. Pack super fast, that way you can enjoy the few hours you have together. Spend the last night hugging each other. A few hours later, you are back at the airport.
What’s next? You cry. And that’s perfectly fine. I’m that kind of person who always recommends crying. It good for you and your emotional state. Studies have found that crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance. And that’s exactly what we want after the separation in long distance relationships.Studies have found that crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance. And that's exactly what we want after the separation in long distance relationships. So go ahead and cry! Click To Tweet
How To Cope
So your significant other left and you feel like there’s a hole in your heart. You were just getting used to their presence. Waking up next to each other and not using your phone to say goodbye is the best; but after the visit is over, you need to start texting again. That sucks. I know.
What do you have to do to cope with separation in long distance relationships? The number one recommendation is to keep yourself busy. Hopefully doing things with other people. So you won’t feel lonely and your brain won’t be thinking over and over again how you wish you could go with them. That’s the first thing I do.What do you have to do to cope with separation in long distance relationships? The number one recommendation is to keep yourself busy. Click To Tweet
I also like to read, but that’s a personal choice. Reading distracts me, and it helps me to not think about my own problems. Every person is different, so you need to find other activities that will be helpful to you. The point is to avoid being alone with your feelings and thoughts. You don’t want to feel sad and depressed, that won’t be helpful in moments like these. Doubts will full your head, as well as desperation. You will want to the end the distance now, and we all know that is not that simple.
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Whatever you do, don’t make that void in your heart bigger. I used to listen to sad songs. So smart, right? I just didn’t know what else to do to make myself feel better. I just wanted to hug my boyfriend again, and that obviously wasn’t an option. Don’t torture yourself.
Maybe you need to talk to someone and let out all those feeling. Find a friend and do that or talk to your dog. You have no idea how many times I have used my dog to let out all my thoughts. They are good listeners. Now, if you need someone that understand what are you going through, I’m always here as well. You can contact me here, or through any of my social media accounts. Many have done that before and I’m always open to talk to you.If you need to talk with someone that understand what are you going through, I'm always here as well. Click To Tweet
If Nothing Works?
If you feel like nothing works and you just can’t cope with separation in long distance relationships. Hey, friend, it’s going to be okay! Long distance relationships are hard and you need to remember why you took this decision. I will help you with that. The reason why, was because not being in a relationship with your significant other was not an option. Plain and simple.If you feel like nothing works and you just can't cope with separation in long distance relationships. Hey, friend, it's going to be okay! Click To Tweet
In moments like this one is when you need to love harder. Again, remember all the reasons why you thought this was the best decision in first place. You knew it wasn’t going to be easy, so when you find bumps in the road, you need to breathe and be strong. The distance won’t be a permanent situation.Remember all the reasons why you thought this was the best decision in first place. You knew it wasn't going to be easy, so when you find bumps in the road, you need to breathe and be strong. Click To Tweet
Yes, years might pass by before you two can finally be together in the same place, but it’s going to be worth it. That’s is the main goal. I have been in a long distance relationship for three years now and I can’t wait to end it, but I know this is something we have to do. It’s going to take a lot of paperwork and money to start living together, but I take it as part of our story and something that will make us stronger in the long run.
Just be strong!
Have you been away from your significant other for a long time? How do you normally cope with separation in long distance relationships? Let me know in the comments!