As I mentioned in other posts, I’m currently in a long-distance relationship. Which, we all know they aren’t that easy. It takes a lot of love and commitment. So here I am today, writing about what are those things that people in long-distance relationships don’t want to hear. I know everyone has their opinions. But there’s a difference between having an opinion and being rude.
I know that some people, especially friends and family, have the best intentions or are really curious about certain topics. But sometimes is just better to say nothing. Or ask them in a better way.
1. Don’t you think he/she is cheating on you?
First, if you are in a relationship where you don’t trust the other person. Why are you even together? And second, being in a long-distance relationship means that you trust that person, even before you start that relationship. So, of course, I don’t think my boyfriend is cheating on me! Why would you even ask that? I mean… you don’t even know him (and I don’t mean in person).
2. If you don’t tell him/her. There’s no way he/she can know.
But I would know. And what’s the point of breaking that trust? And anyway… If you think that’s okay, then good for you. But when I’m in a relationship, trusting someone is really important. Even if he’s right next to me or on the other side of the world.
Honesty is key for any relationship. Not because my boyfriend doesn’t live in the same city as I mean that I can go on with my day like I don’t have one. If wanted that I would be single. Long-distance relationships are like every other relationship, just with the distance between two people.
3. How do you do it?
Love is enough if you really want the relationship to succeed. Simple like that. My relationship is just different because I can’t see my boyfriend whenever I want. But the rest, is just like any other one.
4. Don’t you miss him/her?
Duh. What kind of question is that? Isn’t that like obvious? I don’t only miss my boyfriend, I miss my best friend too.
5. You are so strong! Long-distance relationships are too hard.
My heart is not made of steel. And I’m not that strong. I still feel sad a lot. And I agree it’s hard. But if you really want something, you can make it work.
6. When are you going to see each other again?
When people ask me this question, it makes sad. Sadly, we don’t know that information right after I see him. And it’s a little awkward to answer ‘I don’t know’ because people is expecting a date. And it’s not that easy. Especially because my boyfriend doesn’t even live in the same country. He’s miles and miles away.
To know when I can see him, we need to figure it out: money and free time. I wish we could just buy a plane ticket whenever we wanted. It would make the distance much bearable.
7. Are you guys still together?
Stop. Unless I tell you we broke up, don’t assume the distance was too much and we couldn’t make it. It’s rude.
8. If you only count the times you have seen each other. How long have you been together?
I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. It has been a relationship for 2 years. That’s all I want to tell you. But even if that question irritates me, because you are my friend, I’m going to answer. Probably, just a couple of months.
But anyway… Why is so important to know how long we have been together in person? If I tell you 2 years, then there’s your answer. The other information is not relevant for me, so it shouldn’t be for you.
9. How do you plan to be together in the future?
Please, let’s not talk about that. It’s really too complicated. We are two people for different countries. I can’t just go and live with him. And I don’t want to get you bored with all the paperwork I have to do when the moment arrives.
Are you or were in a long-distance relationship? Did you got asked any of these questions? Or there was something really annoying that people have told you? Let me know in the comments!
And if you haven’t been in one. What are your thoughts about long-distance relationships?