I’m not writing this post to make you sad. I just want to let you know that, whatever you are feeling, it’s okay to give free rein to your feelings. That means: let those tears fall, girl! Nothing is wrong with that.I just want to let you know that, whatever you are feeling, it's okay to give free rein to your feelings. Click To Tweet
You might think that you are too sensitive and feel ashamed when you cry. Or maybe you are the complete opposite and you hate crying, so you try to avoid it at all costs. If you are any of those girls, let me give you some reasons why it’s okay to cry.
Give Free Rein To Those Tears
Emotions are the best and worst at the same time. We feel happy, we fall in love; we feel hope, euphoria, and everything in between. Positive emotions is what we want all the time, but life is a roller coaster with ups and downs we can’t control. Even if we don’t want it, at some point we are going to feel sadness, rage, or desolation. It sucks, but we can learn so much from those situations!
I’m that kind of person that cries over pretty much everything. Dog dies in movie? Tears. Feels upset? Cries of frustration. Someone makes me laugh? Tears of joy. I have no problem with crying, and you want to know why? It’s makes me feel better afterwards.
A study from the University of Minnesota (Dr. William Frey), found that crying (triggered by emotions) improves the mood of 88% of people and it can also help with healing, boosting immunity and reducing levels of anger and stress. It makes so much sense!Crying improves your mood and it can help with healing, boosting immunity and reducing levels of anger and stress. Click To Tweet
Cry if you are hurting. It is for yourself and it’s okay. Don’t feel ashamed. Whatever made you cry, set those feelings free. Crying is not a sign of weakness, but makes you stop and evaluate the situation better. Which leads to a better understating of the problem.
My twenties have been hard for different reasons. I have shed many tears these past years, and even though I feel a little hopeless while crying, I always end up with the same question. Now what?
I cried all I wanted and the problem is still there, what’s going to be my next move? Crying heals. Crying gives you clarity. Believe me. It’s okay to cry.
Reasons Why It’s Okay To Cry
The main reason why I recommend crying is because it helps to let go those negative emotions. It won’t do any good to bottle up your feelings. The list doesn’t finish there, here are more reasons why it’s okay to cry.
1. Crying Is Good For Your Health
Crying releases toxins and kills bacteria. It is our body’s natural defense mechanism against all those pesky germs found in common public places.
Not only that. Emotional tears include the prolactin hormone, which plays an important role in your immune system and is mostly associated with milk production. Women have more prolactin than men and is probably the main reason women tend to cry more.
2. Crying Helps You To Deal With Stress
Shedding some tears “is believed to release stress hormones or toxins from the body,” says Lauren Bylsma, a PhD student at the University of South Florida in Tampa.
Crying is a function of the parasympathetic nervous system that is responsible for relaxation. When you cry, you are likely releasing stress as your body begins to relax.
That is why a good cry feels so good. Especially when you reach that point where you literally don’t know what else to do, and like I said, crying makes you stop and evaluate the situation better. Which leads to a better understating of the problem.
3. Crying Makes You A Better Person
Emotions motivate us to empathize and work together. In fact, crying serves an important social function. It helps communicate the strength and nature of relationships, brings out sympathy and draw individuals closer to one another.
You can see it daily on social media how people lack empathy. How humans sometimes can’t put themselves in someone else’s shoes and they don’t care about other’s pain. The lack of empathy can be shocking.
Seeing people show emotion helps everyone.
4. Crying Helps Is A Sign Of Strength
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving
I hate when people say ‘you are too sensitive’ or ‘you shouldn’t cry over that. Nobody died’ (yes, I have heard that before). We can’t decide for others when it’s okay to cry. We shouldn’t be afraid to show our feelings.
We are humans and it’s part of our essence. I don’t know in what moment we decided to think that crying is stupid and not worth it. It makes me so upset.
It takes strength to show vulnerability. So stop worrying about what others think about you and cry if you want to. What’s the worst thing that can happen?
It’s Okay To Cry In Public As Well
Being around someone who cries in public can be uncomfortable for everyone. Especially if nobody does anything. That sucks, but I don’t blame them. There are many case scenarios why no one did anything. Maybe they didn’t know how to react, or maybe they don’t know if the person wants comfort.
My advise is: if you see someone cry, do something. Even if they are rude to you for offering a hug or a tissue. Don’t take it personal if that happens. Just understand that they are dealing with something and they probably don’t know how to cope with the problem.
At the same time, don’t judge if you see someone crying. Just go ahead an offer a hug or a shoulder to cry on. I have cried in public a few times (at the airport a few times) and it always amazes me how nice people are. Especially when they see you alone.
So don’t feel stupid if you cry in front of people. It’s part of life.